Himalaya: Listen. Learn. Grow.

4.8K Ratings
Open In App
title

Married With Benefits™

FamilyLife Podcast Network

3
Followers
4
Plays
Married With Benefits™

Married With Benefits™

FamilyLife Podcast Network

3
Followers
4
Plays
OVERVIEWEPISODESYOU MAY ALSO LIKE

Details

About Us

We got married because we thought we’d be better together rather than apart. So why is it so easy to feel isolated from your life-long partner? Host, author, and fellow married pilgrim, Brian Goins, tackles the relational pitfalls, from the trivial to the tragic, that move couples towards isolation rather than experiencing the real benefits that come from saying “I do.”

Latest Episodes

13: Rapid-Fire: Questions (a lot of) Other Husbands are Asking

Gathered from a live audience at FamilyLife's Love Like You Mean It cruise, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn and Brian Goins answer a variety of questions from husbands--like, "Why does she ask for my opinion, then do her own thing?" "Why does she pick on my tone of voice?" "Why doesn't she say what she means?" "How can I convince her I think she looks good?" "How am I supposed to avoid fix-it mode when she talks?" Show Notes and Resources For more from Shaunti Feldhahn, visit Shaunti.com. https://shaunti.com Sign up for the "I Do Every Day" devotional series. https://www.familylife.com/ido/ Come join us for romance and relaxation in 2021 on FamilyLife's Love Like You Mean It marriage cruise. https://www.lovelikeyoumeanitcruise.com/ Check out all that's available on the FamilyLife Podcast Network. https://www.familylife.com/familylife-podcast-network/ Your generous support of FamilyLife helps create podcasts like Married With Benefits. https://donate.familylife.com/married-with-benefits/

31 MINJUL 13
Comments
13: Rapid-Fire: Questions (a lot of) Other Husbands are Asking

12: Why Does My Wife Expect Me to Read Her Mind?

Trying to figure out why your wife expects you to know what she's thinking? Does trying to interpret all that mystery feel frustrating, even exhausting? Brian, Shaunti, and guest Jim Mitchell explore how to uncover what's whirring beneath the surface in a way that makes your wife feel known--and significantly improve your relationship. Show Notes and Resources For more from Shaunti Feldhahn, visit Shaunti.com. https://shaunti.com Sign up for the "I Do Every Day" devotional series. https://www.familylife.com/ido/ For Men Only by Shaunti Feldhahn. https://shop.familylife.com/p-2938-for-men-only-revised-and-updated.aspx For Women Only by Shaunti Feldhahn. https://shop.familylife.com/p-2937-for-women-only-revised-and-updated.aspx Check out all that's available on the FamilyLife Podcast Network. https://www.familylife.com/familylife-podcast-network/ Your generous support of FamilyLife helps create podcasts like Married With Benefits. https://donate.familylife.com/married-with-benefits/

24 MINJUL 6
Comments
12: Why Does My Wife Expect Me to Read Her Mind?

11: When Conflict with Your Wife Leaves You Defeated

In this episode, Brian, Jen, and Shaunti address the common insecurities husbands experience in conflict with their wives. At work they feel they can tackle anything, but everything changes at home when emotions enter the scene. Are you curious why late-night arguments leave you feeling outmatched? Or why you'd rather withdraw to think before processing together? Listen for the reasons behind your feelings and for some healthy conflict management tips. Show Notes and Resources For more from Shaunti Feldhahn, visit Shaunti.com. https://shaunti.com Shaunti's book The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages. The little things that make a BIG difference! https://shaunti.com/tb-books/surprising-secrets-highly-happy-marriages/ From Season 1: Why Is He So Touchy? https://www.familylife.com/podcast/married-with-benefits/2-why-is-he-so-touchy/ Sign up for the "I Do Every Day" devotional series. https://www.familylife.com/ido/ "When Sinners Say 'I Do': Discovering the Power of the Gospel for Marriage" by Dave Harvey. https://www.amazon.com/When-Sinners-Say-Do-Discovering/dp/0976758261 Check out all that's available on the FamilyLife Podcast Network. https://www.familylife.com/familylife-podcast-network/ Your generous support of FamilyLife helps create podcasts like Married With Benefits. https://donate.familylife.com/married-with-benefits/

27 MINJUN 29
Comments
11: When Conflict with Your Wife Leaves You Defeated

10: My Wife Cries A Lot…Help!

Husbands all over the world struggle to understand and respond to their wife's tears. Considering two thirds of women admit to crying for no reason, they have good reason to. Curious why women cry so much? Shaunti and Brian, joined by Brian's wife Jen, dig into the "why" behind women's tears and some helpful "dos" and "don'ts" as you move towards your wife. Also learn how God responds to our tears. Show Notes and Resources For more from Shaunti Feldhahn, visit Shaunti.com. https://shaunti.com Sign up for the "I Do Every Day" devotional series. https://www.familylife.com/ido/ For Men Only by Shaunti Feldhahn. https://shop.familylife.com/p-2938-for-men-only-revised-and-updated.aspx For Women Only by Shaunti Feldhahn. https://shop.familylife.com/p-2937-for-women-only-revised-and-updated.aspx Check out all that's available on the FamilyLife Podcast Network. https://www.familylife.com/familylife-podcast-network/ Your generous support of FamilyLife helps create podcasts like Married With Benefits. https://donate.familylife.com/married-with-benefits/

26 MINJUN 22
Comments
10: My Wife Cries A Lot…Help!

9: Every Hallmark Movie Is The Same. Why Does She Still Watch Those?

In season #1 of Married With Benefits we explained what a wife can learn about the mind of her husband from watching ESPN. Here Brian and Shaunti explain the heart of most wives as revealed in Hallmark movies. What core question is she asking that a good love story answers? What insecurities does she carry that she's hoping you will cover? Good news: You don't need to go ice skating or build a rocking chair out of raw cedar to win her heart every day. Show Notes and Resources For more from Shaunti Feldhahn, visit Shaunti.com. https://shaunti.com Hallmark Christmas Movie Plot Generator: https://wronghands1.com/2019/11/29/hallmark-christmas-movie-plot-generator/ From Season 1: "Why Doesn’t My Marriage Look Anything Like a Hallmark Movie?" https://www.familylife.com/podcast/married-with-benefits/14-why-doesnt-my-marriage-look-anything-like-a-hallmark-movie/ Sign up for the "I Do Every Day" devotional series. https://www.familylife.com/ido/ For Men Only by Shaunti Feldhahn. https://shop.familylife.com/p-2938-for-men-only-revised-and-updated.aspx Check out all that's available on the FamilyLife Podcast Network. https://www.familylife.com/familylife-podcast-network/ Your generous support of FamilyLife helps create podcasts like Married With Benefits. https://donate.familylife.com/married-with-benefits/

26 MINJUN 15
Comments
9: Every Hallmark Movie Is The Same. Why Does She Still Watch Those?

8: Why Aren’t Decisions Ever Final For My Wife?

Does it feel like decisions are never final with your wife? Does she like to "taaaaaaaaaalk" things thru way too long? And what should you do when it feels like she's questioning a decision you've made and felt was final? Host Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn explore this common experience with humor, wisdom, and insight on how to finally "lock in" her answer. Show Notes and Resources For more from Shaunti Feldhahn, visit Shaunti.com. https://shaunti.com For Men Only by Shaunti Feldhahn. https://shop.familylife.com/p-2938-for-men-only-revised-and-updated.aspx For Women Only by Shaunti Feldhahn. https://shop.familylife.com/p-2937-for-women-only-revised-and-updated.aspx Check out all that's available on the FamilyLife Podcast Network. https://www.familylife.com/familylife-podcast-network/ Your generous support of FamilyLife helps create podcasts like Married With Benefits. https://donate.familylife.com/married-with-benefits/

21 MINJUN 8
Comments
8: Why Aren’t Decisions Ever Final For My Wife?

7. How can I restore trust after pornography or an affair?

How can a couple restore trust in the area of sexual brokenness (pornography, affairs, etc.)? Licensed sex therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma joins host Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn to instruct husbands and wives on the necessary steps to take to bring the darkness into the light and tenaciously hold on to the God of hope. Show Notes and Resources From season 1: "Questions Every Wife is Asking: How Can A Good Man Be Tempted By Porn?" https://www.familylife.com/podcast/married-with-benefits/3-how-can-a-good-man-be-tempted-by-porn/ Meet our guest today, Dr. Mike Sytsma. https://intimatemarriage.org/project/dr-mike/ Are you looking to invest in your marriage or repair broken trust? https://www.familylife.com/weekend-to-remember/ Your generous support of FamilyLife helps create podcasts like Married With Benefits. https://donate.familylife.com/married-with-benefits/

40 MINJUN 1
Comments
7. How can I restore trust after pornography or an affair?

6: What Do I Do If My Wife Doesn’t Trust Me?

As crazy as it sounds, it's not uncommon for trust to be broken within a marriage and the husband not even realize it. Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn are joined by FamilyLife Today co-host Ann Wilson to offer hope and wise counsel for couples needing to restore trust between them. Show Notes and Resources For more from Shaunti Feldhahn, visit Shaunti.com. https://shaunti.com Check out Dave and Ann Wilson's Vertical Marriage Study. https://www.familylife.com/verticalmarriagestudy/ Ready to get away with your spouse for the weekend and invest in your marriage? https://www.familylife.com/weekend-to-remember/ Check out all that's available on the FamilyLife Podcast Network. https://www.familylife.com/familylife-podcast-network/ Your generous support of FamilyLife helps create podcasts like Married With Benefits. https://donate.familylife.com/married-with-benefits/

30 MINMAY 25
Comments
6: What Do I Do If My Wife Doesn’t Trust Me?

5: Why Does She Ask The Deep Questions At 11pm At Night?

Have you ever wondered why, just when your mind is shutting down for the night, your wife's mind seems to be just getting started? Married with Benefits host Brian Goins, along with Harvard trained researcher Shaunti Feldhahn, discuss this and reveal a simple truth that explains so much about your wife. And they offer 3 steps you can take to navigate this late-night impasse. Show Notes and Resources For more from Shaunti Feldhahn, visit Shaunti.com. https://shaunti.com If you have a heart for families in your community, and want to see your marriage make a difference in the world, check out FamilyLife Local. https://www.familylife.com/local/ Dr. Gary Chapman and Ron Deal join together in this book to teach you how the five love languages can help your blended family. https://www.5lovelanguages.com/book/building-love-together-in-blended-families/ For more great Ron Deal resources, check out FamilyLife Blended. https://www.familylife.com/familylifeblended/about/ Your generous support ...

20 MINMAY 23
Comments
5: Why Does She Ask The Deep Questions At 11pm At Night?

4: Why Can’t My Wife Land The Plane In Conversations?

Husbands, do you get tired head in conversations with your wife as she circles the airport but never lands the plane? Listen as Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn demystify this very common frustration. Understand the brain science behind these exchanges and, more importantly, learn two easy ways to start winning in these moments as the hero of her heart. Show Notes and Resources For more from Shaunti Feldhahn, visit Shaunti.com. https://shaunti.com Sign up for the "I Do Every Day" devotional series. https://www.familylife.com/ido/ Check out all that's available on the FamilyLife Podcast Network. https://www.familylife.com/familylife-podcast-network/ Your generous support of FamilyLife helps create podcasts like Married With Benefits. https://donate.familylife.com/married-with-benefits/

24 MINMAY 22
Comments
4: Why Can’t My Wife Land The Plane In Conversations?

Latest Episodes

13: Rapid-Fire: Questions (a lot of) Other Husbands are Asking

Gathered from a live audience at FamilyLife's Love Like You Mean It cruise, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn and Brian Goins answer a variety of questions from husbands--like, "Why does she ask for my opinion, then do her own thing?" "Why does she pick on my tone of voice?" "Why doesn't she say what she means?" "How can I convince her I think she looks good?" "How am I supposed to avoid fix-it mode when she talks?" Show Notes and Resources For more from Shaunti Feldhahn, visit Shaunti.com. https://shaunti.com Sign up for the "I Do Every Day" devotional series. https://www.familylife.com/ido/ Come join us for romance and relaxation in 2021 on FamilyLife's Love Like You Mean It marriage cruise. https://www.lovelikeyoumeanitcruise.com/ Check out all that's available on the FamilyLife Podcast Network. https://www.familylife.com/familylife-podcast-network/ Your generous support of FamilyLife helps create podcasts like Married With Benefits. https://donate.familylife.com/married-with-benefits/

31 MINJUL 13
Comments
13: Rapid-Fire: Questions (a lot of) Other Husbands are Asking

12: Why Does My Wife Expect Me to Read Her Mind?

Trying to figure out why your wife expects you to know what she's thinking? Does trying to interpret all that mystery feel frustrating, even exhausting? Brian, Shaunti, and guest Jim Mitchell explore how to uncover what's whirring beneath the surface in a way that makes your wife feel known--and significantly improve your relationship. Show Notes and Resources For more from Shaunti Feldhahn, visit Shaunti.com. https://shaunti.com Sign up for the "I Do Every Day" devotional series. https://www.familylife.com/ido/ For Men Only by Shaunti Feldhahn. https://shop.familylife.com/p-2938-for-men-only-revised-and-updated.aspx For Women Only by Shaunti Feldhahn. https://shop.familylife.com/p-2937-for-women-only-revised-and-updated.aspx Check out all that's available on the FamilyLife Podcast Network. https://www.familylife.com/familylife-podcast-network/ Your generous support of FamilyLife helps create podcasts like Married With Benefits. https://donate.familylife.com/married-with-benefits/

24 MINJUL 6
Comments
12: Why Does My Wife Expect Me to Read Her Mind?

11: When Conflict with Your Wife Leaves You Defeated

In this episode, Brian, Jen, and Shaunti address the common insecurities husbands experience in conflict with their wives. At work they feel they can tackle anything, but everything changes at home when emotions enter the scene. Are you curious why late-night arguments leave you feeling outmatched? Or why you'd rather withdraw to think before processing together? Listen for the reasons behind your feelings and for some healthy conflict management tips. Show Notes and Resources For more from Shaunti Feldhahn, visit Shaunti.com. https://shaunti.com Shaunti's book The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages. The little things that make a BIG difference! https://shaunti.com/tb-books/surprising-secrets-highly-happy-marriages/ From Season 1: Why Is He So Touchy? https://www.familylife.com/podcast/married-with-benefits/2-why-is-he-so-touchy/ Sign up for the "I Do Every Day" devotional series. https://www.familylife.com/ido/ "When Sinners Say 'I Do': Discovering the Power of the Gospel for Marriage" by Dave Harvey. https://www.amazon.com/When-Sinners-Say-Do-Discovering/dp/0976758261 Check out all that's available on the FamilyLife Podcast Network. https://www.familylife.com/familylife-podcast-network/ Your generous support of FamilyLife helps create podcasts like Married With Benefits. https://donate.familylife.com/married-with-benefits/

27 MINJUN 29
Comments
11: When Conflict with Your Wife Leaves You Defeated

10: My Wife Cries A Lot…Help!

Husbands all over the world struggle to understand and respond to their wife's tears. Considering two thirds of women admit to crying for no reason, they have good reason to. Curious why women cry so much? Shaunti and Brian, joined by Brian's wife Jen, dig into the "why" behind women's tears and some helpful "dos" and "don'ts" as you move towards your wife. Also learn how God responds to our tears. Show Notes and Resources For more from Shaunti Feldhahn, visit Shaunti.com. https://shaunti.com Sign up for the "I Do Every Day" devotional series. https://www.familylife.com/ido/ For Men Only by Shaunti Feldhahn. https://shop.familylife.com/p-2938-for-men-only-revised-and-updated.aspx For Women Only by Shaunti Feldhahn. https://shop.familylife.com/p-2937-for-women-only-revised-and-updated.aspx Check out all that's available on the FamilyLife Podcast Network. https://www.familylife.com/familylife-podcast-network/ Your generous support of FamilyLife helps create podcasts like Married With Benefits. https://donate.familylife.com/married-with-benefits/

26 MINJUN 22
Comments
10: My Wife Cries A Lot…Help!

9: Every Hallmark Movie Is The Same. Why Does She Still Watch Those?

In season #1 of Married With Benefits we explained what a wife can learn about the mind of her husband from watching ESPN. Here Brian and Shaunti explain the heart of most wives as revealed in Hallmark movies. What core question is she asking that a good love story answers? What insecurities does she carry that she's hoping you will cover? Good news: You don't need to go ice skating or build a rocking chair out of raw cedar to win her heart every day. Show Notes and Resources For more from Shaunti Feldhahn, visit Shaunti.com. https://shaunti.com Hallmark Christmas Movie Plot Generator: https://wronghands1.com/2019/11/29/hallmark-christmas-movie-plot-generator/ From Season 1: "Why Doesn’t My Marriage Look Anything Like a Hallmark Movie?" https://www.familylife.com/podcast/married-with-benefits/14-why-doesnt-my-marriage-look-anything-like-a-hallmark-movie/ Sign up for the "I Do Every Day" devotional series. https://www.familylife.com/ido/ For Men Only by Shaunti Feldhahn. https://shop.familylife.com/p-2938-for-men-only-revised-and-updated.aspx Check out all that's available on the FamilyLife Podcast Network. https://www.familylife.com/familylife-podcast-network/ Your generous support of FamilyLife helps create podcasts like Married With Benefits. https://donate.familylife.com/married-with-benefits/

26 MINJUN 15
Comments
9: Every Hallmark Movie Is The Same. Why Does She Still Watch Those?

8: Why Aren’t Decisions Ever Final For My Wife?

Does it feel like decisions are never final with your wife? Does she like to "taaaaaaaaaalk" things thru way too long? And what should you do when it feels like she's questioning a decision you've made and felt was final? Host Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn explore this common experience with humor, wisdom, and insight on how to finally "lock in" her answer. Show Notes and Resources For more from Shaunti Feldhahn, visit Shaunti.com. https://shaunti.com For Men Only by Shaunti Feldhahn. https://shop.familylife.com/p-2938-for-men-only-revised-and-updated.aspx For Women Only by Shaunti Feldhahn. https://shop.familylife.com/p-2937-for-women-only-revised-and-updated.aspx Check out all that's available on the FamilyLife Podcast Network. https://www.familylife.com/familylife-podcast-network/ Your generous support of FamilyLife helps create podcasts like Married With Benefits. https://donate.familylife.com/married-with-benefits/

21 MINJUN 8
Comments
8: Why Aren’t Decisions Ever Final For My Wife?

7. How can I restore trust after pornography or an affair?

How can a couple restore trust in the area of sexual brokenness (pornography, affairs, etc.)? Licensed sex therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma joins host Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn to instruct husbands and wives on the necessary steps to take to bring the darkness into the light and tenaciously hold on to the God of hope. Show Notes and Resources From season 1: "Questions Every Wife is Asking: How Can A Good Man Be Tempted By Porn?" https://www.familylife.com/podcast/married-with-benefits/3-how-can-a-good-man-be-tempted-by-porn/ Meet our guest today, Dr. Mike Sytsma. https://intimatemarriage.org/project/dr-mike/ Are you looking to invest in your marriage or repair broken trust? https://www.familylife.com/weekend-to-remember/ Your generous support of FamilyLife helps create podcasts like Married With Benefits. https://donate.familylife.com/married-with-benefits/

40 MINJUN 1
Comments
7. How can I restore trust after pornography or an affair?

6: What Do I Do If My Wife Doesn’t Trust Me?

As crazy as it sounds, it's not uncommon for trust to be broken within a marriage and the husband not even realize it. Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn are joined by FamilyLife Today co-host Ann Wilson to offer hope and wise counsel for couples needing to restore trust between them. Show Notes and Resources For more from Shaunti Feldhahn, visit Shaunti.com. https://shaunti.com Check out Dave and Ann Wilson's Vertical Marriage Study. https://www.familylife.com/verticalmarriagestudy/ Ready to get away with your spouse for the weekend and invest in your marriage? https://www.familylife.com/weekend-to-remember/ Check out all that's available on the FamilyLife Podcast Network. https://www.familylife.com/familylife-podcast-network/ Your generous support of FamilyLife helps create podcasts like Married With Benefits. https://donate.familylife.com/married-with-benefits/

30 MINMAY 25
Comments
6: What Do I Do If My Wife Doesn’t Trust Me?

5: Why Does She Ask The Deep Questions At 11pm At Night?

Have you ever wondered why, just when your mind is shutting down for the night, your wife's mind seems to be just getting started? Married with Benefits host Brian Goins, along with Harvard trained researcher Shaunti Feldhahn, discuss this and reveal a simple truth that explains so much about your wife. And they offer 3 steps you can take to navigate this late-night impasse. Show Notes and Resources For more from Shaunti Feldhahn, visit Shaunti.com. https://shaunti.com If you have a heart for families in your community, and want to see your marriage make a difference in the world, check out FamilyLife Local. https://www.familylife.com/local/ Dr. Gary Chapman and Ron Deal join together in this book to teach you how the five love languages can help your blended family. https://www.5lovelanguages.com/book/building-love-together-in-blended-families/ For more great Ron Deal resources, check out FamilyLife Blended. https://www.familylife.com/familylifeblended/about/ Your generous support ...

20 MINMAY 23
Comments
5: Why Does She Ask The Deep Questions At 11pm At Night?

4: Why Can’t My Wife Land The Plane In Conversations?

Husbands, do you get tired head in conversations with your wife as she circles the airport but never lands the plane? Listen as Brian Goins and Shaunti Feldhahn demystify this very common frustration. Understand the brain science behind these exchanges and, more importantly, learn two easy ways to start winning in these moments as the hero of her heart. Show Notes and Resources For more from Shaunti Feldhahn, visit Shaunti.com. https://shaunti.com Sign up for the "I Do Every Day" devotional series. https://www.familylife.com/ido/ Check out all that's available on the FamilyLife Podcast Network. https://www.familylife.com/familylife-podcast-network/ Your generous support of FamilyLife helps create podcasts like Married With Benefits. https://donate.familylife.com/married-with-benefits/

24 MINMAY 22
Comments
4: Why Can’t My Wife Land The Plane In Conversations?
success toast
Welcome to Himalaya LearningDozens of podcourses featuring over 100 experts are waiting for you.