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Step One on the Path to Happily Divorced with India Kern

If you’ve been blindsided by an unwanted divorce, the prospect of feeling joy again one day may seem impossible. But if you’re willing to do the work, you CAN choose better over bitter and take the first steps on the path to happily divorced. India Kern is the Divorce Recovery Mentor behind India Kern Coaching, a practice dedicated to guiding clients through the transition from married to happily divorced. She specializes in working with people who feel stuck in their divorce pain, helping them gain confidence, build a sense of security, and find joy again. India is also the author of Surviving the Unwanted Divorce: Discover a Purpose-Driven Life After the Devastation of Divorce. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, India joins Katherine to share what it means to be happily divorced and explain how she learned who she was after her own marriage ended. She describes what uncertainty does to the mind, body and soul, challenging us to take inventory of our physical, emotional and spiritual health as a counterbalance to the fear of divorce. Listen in for India’s insight on moving through the grief in order to heal and learn how to take your first step on the path to happily divorced! Topics Covered How India’s own painful divorce inspired her career as a divorce coach India’s description of what it means to be happily divorced Why women who define themselves through other people are rocked by divorce How to ‘welcome yourself back home’ in the aftermath of divorce The value in keeping a journal to track your progress + clarify your thoughts What fear and uncertainty does to your mind, body and soul The three areas of focus that help counterbalance the fear of divorce Physical health Emotional wellbeing Spiritual life Why moving through your grief is necessary in order to heal How grief comes back up if you don’t deal with it effectively The first step to get you started on the path to happily divorced Connect with India Kern India’s Website: https://www.indiakern.com/ Email connect@indiakern.com Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict Miller Law Group Katherine on LinkedIn The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller Email katherine@westchesterfamilylaw.com Call (914) 738-7765 Resources Surviving the Unwanted Divorce: Discover a Purpose-Driven Life After the Devastation of Divorce by India L. Kern: https://www.amazon.com/Surviving-Unwanted-Divorce-Purpose-Driven-Devastation/dp/1642998222

25 MIN2 w ago
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Step One on the Path to Happily Divorced with India Kern

Nutrition & Wellbeing Through Divorce with Kristin Kirkpatrick

If you’re in the middle of a divorce, meal planning is probably at the bottom of your priority list. But the fact is, what you eat (or don’t eat) has a serious impact on the way you feel—and the way you feel about yourself. So, what can you do to maintain good nutrition through such a stressful time? Kristin Kirkpatrick is the award-winning dietician and nutritionist behind KAK Consulting and manager of of Wellness Nutrition Services at the Cleveland Clinic. With 18-plus years of experience in the health management space, Kristin has appeared on the TODAY Show, NBC Nightly News and Dr. Oz, and her work has been featured in TIME Magazine, Oprah and Women’s Health. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Kristin joins Katherine to discuss the challenges around staying healthy during a stressful time. She explains why so many of us either gain or lose weight during a divorce, offering advice on how to manage what we eat and make choices that improve our mood. Listen in for Kristin’s insight around how stress impacts metabolism and learn what you can do to establish healthy eating habits—even in the midst of divorce. Topics Covered Why many of us either gain or lose weight during a divorce How to manage what we eat during a stressful time Link between food and mood Practice intuitive eating The link between low vitamin D and anxiety + depression The benefits and top sources of omega-3 fatty acids How to improve our overall gut health How stress impacts our metabolism in the short term The factors that influence our metabolism in the long term How resistance training has helped Kristin’s clients What gets in the way of establishing healthy habits Kristin’s own experience as an overweight child and teen The danger in tying our worth to a number (e.g.: size 2) Connect with Kristin Kirkpatrick Kristin’s Website: https://www.kristinkirkpatrick.com/ Kristin on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/krissypicks/ Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@westchesterfamilylaw.com Call (914) 738-7765 Resources Cleveland Clinic: https://my.clevelandclinic.org/ NYT Article on Pandemic Snacking: https://www.nytimes.com/2020/06/16/well/eat/pandemic-snacking-junk-food-habits-eating-weight.html

24 MINJUL 8
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Nutrition & Wellbeing Through Divorce with Kristin Kirkpatrick

Has Your Marriage Reached Its Expiration Date? with Debra Doak

How do you know if your marriage is over? And once you know, how do you overcome the fears associated with divorce? Debra Doak is a Certified Divorce Coach and Certified Divorce Financial Analyst on a mission to give women the confidence they need to speak up for what they deserve in their relationships or at the negotiating table. Debra specializes in helping women make difficult decisions about marriage and money, and she is the author of High-Conflict Divorce for Women: Your Guide to Coping Skills and Legal Strategies for All Stages of Divorce. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Debra joins Katherine to discuss the signs that a marriage is over and offer guidance around what to do if you’re not sure whether to stay or go. She describes how she works with clients who are afraid to leave, walking us through her five-step process for identifying, challenging and reframing our fears about divorce. Listen in for Debra’s insight on taking off your grey-colored glasses to imagine a more fulfilling future and learn how to achieve self-reliance in the aftermath of divorce. Topics Covered Debra’s insight around the signs that a marriage is over The concept of negative sentiment override Asking your spouse to do 5 things that will make you 10% happier What to do if you’re not sure whether to stay or go Debra’s take on people who ‘didn’t know the marriage was THAT bad’ How Debra works with clients who are afraid to leave Debra’s 5 steps to DITCH your fears about divorce 1. Decide 2. Investigate 3. Team up 4. Campaign 5. Hope How to take off your grey-colored glasses and imagine a fulfilling future Why Debra focuses on helping women achieve self-reliance Debra’s experience working with women who were the breadwinner How Debra directs clients to the best divorce process for their situation Connect with Debra Doak Debra’s Website: https://debradoak.com/ Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@westchesterfamilylaw.com Call (914) 738-7765 Resources High-Conflict Divorce for Women: Your Guide to Coping Skills and Legal Strategies for All Stages of Divorce by Debra Doak: https://www.amazon.com/High-Conflict-Divorce-Women-Coping-Strategies/dp/1641528192 The Gottman Institute’s Negative Sentiment Override Quiz: https://www.gottman.com/blog/quiz-negative-sentiment-override/

25 MINJUN 24
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Has Your Marriage Reached Its Expiration Date? with Debra Doak

How to Avoid Conflict & Coparent Well in Challenging Times with JoAnne Pedro-Carroll

The Coronavirus has thrown us all for a loop, forcing us to take on multiple roles at once. Parents are struggling to work from home and homeschool our children at the same time, all while managing financial challenges and fears around the health and safety of the people we love. And divorced parents have the added pressure of coparenting in a time when our parenting plans just aren’t feasible. So, what can we do to avoid conflict with our ex and show up for our kids as the best possible version of ourselves? Clinical psychologist Dr. JoAnne Pedro-Carroll is an internationally recognized expert in the field of children and divorce, appearing regularly as a keynote speaker at conferences around the globe. She has 35 years of clinical experience helping families navigate the transitions that accompany divorce and often serves as a child specialist in the collaborative law process. JoAnne is also the bestselling author of Putting Children First: Proven Parenting Strategies for Helping...

26 MINJUN 12
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How to Avoid Conflict & Coparent Well in Challenging Times with JoAnne Pedro-Carroll

Realistic Expectations for Successful Stepfamilies with Mary T. Kelly

The divorce rate among couples in second marriages with kids is somewhere between 64% and 72%. And part of the reason is that stepfamilies face unique challenges and may not have a realistic picture of just how long it takes for stepparents and stepchildren to get comfortable with each other. Mary T. Kelly, M.A. is the marriage and family psychotherapist behind Real Stepfamilies, a platform designed to educate, normalize and offer practical solutions for the complexities of being part of a blended family. Her private practice in Boulder, Colorado, focuses on helping step-couples and stepfamilies, and she has 18-plus years of clinical experience in the space. Mary also runs support groups for stepmothers and serves as a contributing writer for Huffington Post and Stepmom Magazine. On this episode, Mary joins Katherine to discuss the unique challenges faced by combined families with nonbiological members. She explains what’s behind the cultural stereotype of the ‘evil stepmother’ and describes the unrealistic expectations we have for what our blended family will look like. Listen in for Mary’s insight on establishing a good stepparent-stepchild relationship and learn what new stepfamilies can do to ease the transition for all involved. Topics Covered Why the solutions counselors use for nuclear families don’t work for stepfamilies What’s behind the cultural stereotype of the ‘evil stepmother’ The competing priorities of being a parent, a spouse and a stepparent simultaneously The challenge in taking on the role of stepmother when you don’t have kids of your own The therapeutic value of having camaraderie with other stepmoms What we can do to ease the transition for married couples with kids Establishing realistic expectations for what your blended family will look like The pressure some women put on themselves to be the ‘best stepmom ever’ Why it’s crucial for couples in second marriages to set a regular date night Why men tend to be more permissive with their kids post-divorce Mary’s insight on what a good stepparent-stepchild relationship looks like Connect with Mary T. Kelly Real Stepfamilies Call (303) 594-5240 Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@westchesterfamilylaw.com Call (914) 738-7765 Resources Mary’s Meetup for Stepmoms: https://www.meetup.com/Stepmoms-AKA-Step-Monsters/

25 MINJUN 10
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Realistic Expectations for Successful Stepfamilies with Mary T. Kelly

Coparenting Through COVID-19 with Cameron Goodman

If you had trouble seeing eye to eye with your ex before the Coronavirus hit, the crisis likely magnified the issue. And with the current restrictions on travel, following your carefully crafted custody plan may be impossible. So, what is the best way to approach coparenting through COVID-19? Cameron Goodman is the founder of Goodman Law Firm, a Chicago area boutique practice specializing in divorce and family law. With nearly 20 years of legal experience, Cameron is dedicated to helping families in transition move forward with their lives, leveraging the collaborative process whenever possible to produce favorable outcomes. On this episode, Cameron joins Katherine to discuss the challenges of coparenting through COVID-19. He encourages divorced parents to prioritize their kids’ needs over their own and be flexible with custody plans in light of the pandemic, leveraging mediation to facilitate communication when needed. Listen in for Cameron’s insight on how the collaborative process helps coparents work together in a crisis and learn what you can do to demonstrate good parenting judgement in this unprecedented time. Topics Covered Being flexible with custody plans in the time of COVID-19 Cameron’s advice for his clients during the Coronavirus pandemic Prioritize kids’ needs over own Adjust schedule to minimize travel The particular challenge when divorced parents see the crisis differently When the courts in Illinois are granting ‘emergency relief’ Why it might show good parenting judgement to see your kids less right now How the collaborative process helps coparents work together in a crisis Cameron’s description of a high-conflict ‘scorched earth’ divorce The broader opportunity for creative solutions afforded by a collaborative team of professionals Cameron’s DO’S and DON’TS for coparenting through COVID-19 DO make child available to other parent by phone, follow jurisdiction’s orders for safety DON’T insist on travel exchanges How mediation can help facilitate communication between coparents What led Cameron to focus his practice on the collaborative process Connect with Cameron Goodman Goodman Law Firm Call (630) 474-6700 Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@westchesterfamilylaw.com Call (914) 738-7765

23 MINMAY 27
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Coparenting Through COVID-19 with Cameron Goodman

Sell Your Stuff & Start Fresh After Divorce with Tiffany Ann Beverlin

It’s difficult enough to move forward with your life after a divorce. But it’s harder yet if you’re still surrounded by the furniture, jewelry, or art acquired during the marriage. Tiffany Ann Beverlin argues that it’s not necessarily healthy to live among the ashes of broken marriage when you’re trying to build a new life. But where can you go to sell those items and get a fair price? Are there options beyond eBay or the local pawn shop? Tiffany Ann is the Founder and CEO of Dreams Recycled, an online marketplace that specializes in selling items from a divorce, including engagement rings, bedroom sets and wedding dresses. Dreams Recycled also serves as an educational platform and resource guide, and the site has been recognized as the #1 divorce community in the US. In addition to running Dreams Recycled, Tiffany is a Certified Life Coach, Divorce Expert and author of My Dreams Recycled. On this episode, Tiffany Ann joins Katherine to explain how her own divorce inspired the creation of Dreams Recycled, sharing the challenge she faced in reentering the workforce after 10-plus years as a stay-at-home mom. She describes the trend toward living with less she has seen in her work, offering insight around how the money generated from selling marital items can facilitate a new beginning. Listen in for Tiffany Ann’s advice on fighting for what really matters in a divorce and learn how you can benefit from letting go of the material things acquired during a marriage that’s ended. Topics Covered How Tiffany Ann’s own divorce inspired the creation of Dreams Recycled The challenge Tiffany Ann faced in reentering the workforce after a decade as a stay-at-home mom What it takes to start your own business as a parent of three The emotional relief associated with letting go of items like your engagement ring How Tiffany Ann thinks about deciding what to keep and what to sell The trend toward living with less that Tiffany Ann has seen in her work Turning the money generated from selling marital items into a new beginning The negativity and trauma that may be attached to jewelry Tiffany Ann’s advice for couples considering or initiating the divorce process When in doubt, take high road Stand up for best interest of children Know WHAT fighting for + WHO up against Allow lawyer to act as buffer Get informed re: divorce law your state Connect with Tiffany Ann Beverlin Dreams Recycled: https://www.amazon.com/Dreams-Recycled-Tiffany-Ann-Beverlin/dp/0998268623 Dreams Recycled on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/dreamsrecycled/?ref=br_rs Dreams Recycled on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dreamsrecycled/ Tiffany Ann on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tiffanybeverlin/ Tiffany Ann on Twitter: https://twitter.com/tiffanybeverlin?lang=en Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@westchesterfamilylaw.com Call (914) 738-7765 Resources My Dreams Recycled by Tiffany Ann Beverlin: https://www.amazon.com/Dreams-Recycled-Tiffany-Ann-Beverlin/dp/0998268623

25 MINMAY 13
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Sell Your Stuff & Start Fresh After Divorce with Tiffany Ann Beverlin

Be Your Best Self in the Divorce Process with Nancy Steiner

The stress of a divorce can bring out the worst in us. Emotions are heightened, and we revert to our most-regressed selves. But it doesn’t have to be this way. You can commit to staying in a place of kindness and compassion, whether or not your ex reciprocates, and achieve a better result. Nancy Steiner is the Founder and President of Steiner Coaching Solutions, a practice dedicated to helping people achieve higher levels of potential, creativity and confidence. Nancy spent 40 years producing documentary films and nonfiction network television, telling stories that offered a deeper understanding of the human condition. In 2018, a health crisis inspired Nancy’s transition to coaching, a career that allows her to connect more deeply with people one-on-one. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Nancy joins Katherine to explain how a coach can help you make decisions about who you want to be in the divorce process. She discusses the benefits of taking the high road, sharing what she d...

25 MINAPR 29
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Be Your Best Self in the Divorce Process with Nancy Steiner

Navigating Eldercare in the Coronavirus Era with Barbara Newman-Mannix

For adult children with aging parents, the current health crisis is particularly stressful. Some of us are caring for Mom or Dad at home without the help we’re used to. Others are cut off from our loved ones in nursing homes or assisted living facilities. So, what’s the best way to navigate our new role as caregiver if an elderly parent is home with us? Or stay connected to our aging parents if we can’t see them face-to-face? Barbara Newman-Mannix is the Founder and CEO of A Dignified Life, a consultancy that helps families understand and manage major life transitions. ADL develops care plans for elder parents and loved ones with chronic illness, connecting families with the professional services they need. Barbara is a fierce advocate for families, supporting them through the difficult healthcare, insurance, legal and financial challenges that come with navigating change around eldercare, end-of-life, divorce or special needs. On this special episode of Divorce Dialogues, Barbar...

22 MINAPR 16
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Navigating Eldercare in the Coronavirus Era with Barbara Newman-Mannix

When to Let Go & Go Through with Divorce with Dr. Frederick Tiesenga

Multiple songs have been written about the futility of trying to make someone love you. But if that someone is your spouse, you may spend years (and a lot of money) in the attempt. So, how do you know when it’s time to let go and go through with a divorce? Dr. Frederick Tiesenga is an award-winning, board certified bariatric surgeon dedicated to helping people achieve a healthier lifestyle. He is also the author of I Do Until I Don’t: A Surgeon’s Story of Divorce and Healing, a collection of his experiences through marriage and divorce. In the book, Dr. Tiesenga gets real about what a healthy marriage should look like and shares his hard-earned insights into divorce. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Dr. Tiesenga joins Katherine to share the story of his own contentious divorce, describing what he did to try and save the marriage—and why it didn’t work. He offers his take on why a prenuptial agreement is a necessity and discusses what couples can do to communicate their nee...

25 MINAPR 15
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When to Let Go & Go Through with Divorce with Dr. Frederick Tiesenga

Latest Episodes

Step One on the Path to Happily Divorced with India Kern

If you’ve been blindsided by an unwanted divorce, the prospect of feeling joy again one day may seem impossible. But if you’re willing to do the work, you CAN choose better over bitter and take the first steps on the path to happily divorced. India Kern is the Divorce Recovery Mentor behind India Kern Coaching, a practice dedicated to guiding clients through the transition from married to happily divorced. She specializes in working with people who feel stuck in their divorce pain, helping them gain confidence, build a sense of security, and find joy again. India is also the author of Surviving the Unwanted Divorce: Discover a Purpose-Driven Life After the Devastation of Divorce. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, India joins Katherine to share what it means to be happily divorced and explain how she learned who she was after her own marriage ended. She describes what uncertainty does to the mind, body and soul, challenging us to take inventory of our physical, emotional and spiritual health as a counterbalance to the fear of divorce. Listen in for India’s insight on moving through the grief in order to heal and learn how to take your first step on the path to happily divorced! Topics Covered How India’s own painful divorce inspired her career as a divorce coach India’s description of what it means to be happily divorced Why women who define themselves through other people are rocked by divorce How to ‘welcome yourself back home’ in the aftermath of divorce The value in keeping a journal to track your progress + clarify your thoughts What fear and uncertainty does to your mind, body and soul The three areas of focus that help counterbalance the fear of divorce Physical health Emotional wellbeing Spiritual life Why moving through your grief is necessary in order to heal How grief comes back up if you don’t deal with it effectively The first step to get you started on the path to happily divorced Connect with India Kern India’s Website: https://www.indiakern.com/ Email connect@indiakern.com Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict Miller Law Group Katherine on LinkedIn The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller Email katherine@westchesterfamilylaw.com Call (914) 738-7765 Resources Surviving the Unwanted Divorce: Discover a Purpose-Driven Life After the Devastation of Divorce by India L. Kern: https://www.amazon.com/Surviving-Unwanted-Divorce-Purpose-Driven-Devastation/dp/1642998222

25 MIN2 w ago
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Step One on the Path to Happily Divorced with India Kern

Nutrition & Wellbeing Through Divorce with Kristin Kirkpatrick

If you’re in the middle of a divorce, meal planning is probably at the bottom of your priority list. But the fact is, what you eat (or don’t eat) has a serious impact on the way you feel—and the way you feel about yourself. So, what can you do to maintain good nutrition through such a stressful time? Kristin Kirkpatrick is the award-winning dietician and nutritionist behind KAK Consulting and manager of of Wellness Nutrition Services at the Cleveland Clinic. With 18-plus years of experience in the health management space, Kristin has appeared on the TODAY Show, NBC Nightly News and Dr. Oz, and her work has been featured in TIME Magazine, Oprah and Women’s Health. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Kristin joins Katherine to discuss the challenges around staying healthy during a stressful time. She explains why so many of us either gain or lose weight during a divorce, offering advice on how to manage what we eat and make choices that improve our mood. Listen in for Kristin’s insight around how stress impacts metabolism and learn what you can do to establish healthy eating habits—even in the midst of divorce. Topics Covered Why many of us either gain or lose weight during a divorce How to manage what we eat during a stressful time Link between food and mood Practice intuitive eating The link between low vitamin D and anxiety + depression The benefits and top sources of omega-3 fatty acids How to improve our overall gut health How stress impacts our metabolism in the short term The factors that influence our metabolism in the long term How resistance training has helped Kristin’s clients What gets in the way of establishing healthy habits Kristin’s own experience as an overweight child and teen The danger in tying our worth to a number (e.g.: size 2) Connect with Kristin Kirkpatrick Kristin’s Website: https://www.kristinkirkpatrick.com/ Kristin on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/krissypicks/ Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@westchesterfamilylaw.com Call (914) 738-7765 Resources Cleveland Clinic: https://my.clevelandclinic.org/ NYT Article on Pandemic Snacking: https://www.nytimes.com/2020/06/16/well/eat/pandemic-snacking-junk-food-habits-eating-weight.html

24 MINJUL 8
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Nutrition & Wellbeing Through Divorce with Kristin Kirkpatrick

Has Your Marriage Reached Its Expiration Date? with Debra Doak

How do you know if your marriage is over? And once you know, how do you overcome the fears associated with divorce? Debra Doak is a Certified Divorce Coach and Certified Divorce Financial Analyst on a mission to give women the confidence they need to speak up for what they deserve in their relationships or at the negotiating table. Debra specializes in helping women make difficult decisions about marriage and money, and she is the author of High-Conflict Divorce for Women: Your Guide to Coping Skills and Legal Strategies for All Stages of Divorce. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Debra joins Katherine to discuss the signs that a marriage is over and offer guidance around what to do if you’re not sure whether to stay or go. She describes how she works with clients who are afraid to leave, walking us through her five-step process for identifying, challenging and reframing our fears about divorce. Listen in for Debra’s insight on taking off your grey-colored glasses to imagine a more fulfilling future and learn how to achieve self-reliance in the aftermath of divorce. Topics Covered Debra’s insight around the signs that a marriage is over The concept of negative sentiment override Asking your spouse to do 5 things that will make you 10% happier What to do if you’re not sure whether to stay or go Debra’s take on people who ‘didn’t know the marriage was THAT bad’ How Debra works with clients who are afraid to leave Debra’s 5 steps to DITCH your fears about divorce 1. Decide 2. Investigate 3. Team up 4. Campaign 5. Hope How to take off your grey-colored glasses and imagine a fulfilling future Why Debra focuses on helping women achieve self-reliance Debra’s experience working with women who were the breadwinner How Debra directs clients to the best divorce process for their situation Connect with Debra Doak Debra’s Website: https://debradoak.com/ Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@westchesterfamilylaw.com Call (914) 738-7765 Resources High-Conflict Divorce for Women: Your Guide to Coping Skills and Legal Strategies for All Stages of Divorce by Debra Doak: https://www.amazon.com/High-Conflict-Divorce-Women-Coping-Strategies/dp/1641528192 The Gottman Institute’s Negative Sentiment Override Quiz: https://www.gottman.com/blog/quiz-negative-sentiment-override/

25 MINJUN 24
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Has Your Marriage Reached Its Expiration Date? with Debra Doak

How to Avoid Conflict & Coparent Well in Challenging Times with JoAnne Pedro-Carroll

The Coronavirus has thrown us all for a loop, forcing us to take on multiple roles at once. Parents are struggling to work from home and homeschool our children at the same time, all while managing financial challenges and fears around the health and safety of the people we love. And divorced parents have the added pressure of coparenting in a time when our parenting plans just aren’t feasible. So, what can we do to avoid conflict with our ex and show up for our kids as the best possible version of ourselves? Clinical psychologist Dr. JoAnne Pedro-Carroll is an internationally recognized expert in the field of children and divorce, appearing regularly as a keynote speaker at conferences around the globe. She has 35 years of clinical experience helping families navigate the transitions that accompany divorce and often serves as a child specialist in the collaborative law process. JoAnne is also the bestselling author of Putting Children First: Proven Parenting Strategies for Helping...

26 MINJUN 12
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How to Avoid Conflict & Coparent Well in Challenging Times with JoAnne Pedro-Carroll

Realistic Expectations for Successful Stepfamilies with Mary T. Kelly

The divorce rate among couples in second marriages with kids is somewhere between 64% and 72%. And part of the reason is that stepfamilies face unique challenges and may not have a realistic picture of just how long it takes for stepparents and stepchildren to get comfortable with each other. Mary T. Kelly, M.A. is the marriage and family psychotherapist behind Real Stepfamilies, a platform designed to educate, normalize and offer practical solutions for the complexities of being part of a blended family. Her private practice in Boulder, Colorado, focuses on helping step-couples and stepfamilies, and she has 18-plus years of clinical experience in the space. Mary also runs support groups for stepmothers and serves as a contributing writer for Huffington Post and Stepmom Magazine. On this episode, Mary joins Katherine to discuss the unique challenges faced by combined families with nonbiological members. She explains what’s behind the cultural stereotype of the ‘evil stepmother’ and describes the unrealistic expectations we have for what our blended family will look like. Listen in for Mary’s insight on establishing a good stepparent-stepchild relationship and learn what new stepfamilies can do to ease the transition for all involved. Topics Covered Why the solutions counselors use for nuclear families don’t work for stepfamilies What’s behind the cultural stereotype of the ‘evil stepmother’ The competing priorities of being a parent, a spouse and a stepparent simultaneously The challenge in taking on the role of stepmother when you don’t have kids of your own The therapeutic value of having camaraderie with other stepmoms What we can do to ease the transition for married couples with kids Establishing realistic expectations for what your blended family will look like The pressure some women put on themselves to be the ‘best stepmom ever’ Why it’s crucial for couples in second marriages to set a regular date night Why men tend to be more permissive with their kids post-divorce Mary’s insight on what a good stepparent-stepchild relationship looks like Connect with Mary T. Kelly Real Stepfamilies Call (303) 594-5240 Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@westchesterfamilylaw.com Call (914) 738-7765 Resources Mary’s Meetup for Stepmoms: https://www.meetup.com/Stepmoms-AKA-Step-Monsters/

25 MINJUN 10
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Realistic Expectations for Successful Stepfamilies with Mary T. Kelly

Coparenting Through COVID-19 with Cameron Goodman

If you had trouble seeing eye to eye with your ex before the Coronavirus hit, the crisis likely magnified the issue. And with the current restrictions on travel, following your carefully crafted custody plan may be impossible. So, what is the best way to approach coparenting through COVID-19? Cameron Goodman is the founder of Goodman Law Firm, a Chicago area boutique practice specializing in divorce and family law. With nearly 20 years of legal experience, Cameron is dedicated to helping families in transition move forward with their lives, leveraging the collaborative process whenever possible to produce favorable outcomes. On this episode, Cameron joins Katherine to discuss the challenges of coparenting through COVID-19. He encourages divorced parents to prioritize their kids’ needs over their own and be flexible with custody plans in light of the pandemic, leveraging mediation to facilitate communication when needed. Listen in for Cameron’s insight on how the collaborative process helps coparents work together in a crisis and learn what you can do to demonstrate good parenting judgement in this unprecedented time. Topics Covered Being flexible with custody plans in the time of COVID-19 Cameron’s advice for his clients during the Coronavirus pandemic Prioritize kids’ needs over own Adjust schedule to minimize travel The particular challenge when divorced parents see the crisis differently When the courts in Illinois are granting ‘emergency relief’ Why it might show good parenting judgement to see your kids less right now How the collaborative process helps coparents work together in a crisis Cameron’s description of a high-conflict ‘scorched earth’ divorce The broader opportunity for creative solutions afforded by a collaborative team of professionals Cameron’s DO’S and DON’TS for coparenting through COVID-19 DO make child available to other parent by phone, follow jurisdiction’s orders for safety DON’T insist on travel exchanges How mediation can help facilitate communication between coparents What led Cameron to focus his practice on the collaborative process Connect with Cameron Goodman Goodman Law Firm Call (630) 474-6700 Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@westchesterfamilylaw.com Call (914) 738-7765

23 MINMAY 27
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Coparenting Through COVID-19 with Cameron Goodman

Sell Your Stuff & Start Fresh After Divorce with Tiffany Ann Beverlin

It’s difficult enough to move forward with your life after a divorce. But it’s harder yet if you’re still surrounded by the furniture, jewelry, or art acquired during the marriage. Tiffany Ann Beverlin argues that it’s not necessarily healthy to live among the ashes of broken marriage when you’re trying to build a new life. But where can you go to sell those items and get a fair price? Are there options beyond eBay or the local pawn shop? Tiffany Ann is the Founder and CEO of Dreams Recycled, an online marketplace that specializes in selling items from a divorce, including engagement rings, bedroom sets and wedding dresses. Dreams Recycled also serves as an educational platform and resource guide, and the site has been recognized as the #1 divorce community in the US. In addition to running Dreams Recycled, Tiffany is a Certified Life Coach, Divorce Expert and author of My Dreams Recycled. On this episode, Tiffany Ann joins Katherine to explain how her own divorce inspired the creation of Dreams Recycled, sharing the challenge she faced in reentering the workforce after 10-plus years as a stay-at-home mom. She describes the trend toward living with less she has seen in her work, offering insight around how the money generated from selling marital items can facilitate a new beginning. Listen in for Tiffany Ann’s advice on fighting for what really matters in a divorce and learn how you can benefit from letting go of the material things acquired during a marriage that’s ended. Topics Covered How Tiffany Ann’s own divorce inspired the creation of Dreams Recycled The challenge Tiffany Ann faced in reentering the workforce after a decade as a stay-at-home mom What it takes to start your own business as a parent of three The emotional relief associated with letting go of items like your engagement ring How Tiffany Ann thinks about deciding what to keep and what to sell The trend toward living with less that Tiffany Ann has seen in her work Turning the money generated from selling marital items into a new beginning The negativity and trauma that may be attached to jewelry Tiffany Ann’s advice for couples considering or initiating the divorce process When in doubt, take high road Stand up for best interest of children Know WHAT fighting for + WHO up against Allow lawyer to act as buffer Get informed re: divorce law your state Connect with Tiffany Ann Beverlin Dreams Recycled: https://www.amazon.com/Dreams-Recycled-Tiffany-Ann-Beverlin/dp/0998268623 Dreams Recycled on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/dreamsrecycled/?ref=br_rs Dreams Recycled on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dreamsrecycled/ Tiffany Ann on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tiffanybeverlin/ Tiffany Ann on Twitter: https://twitter.com/tiffanybeverlin?lang=en Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@westchesterfamilylaw.com Call (914) 738-7765 Resources My Dreams Recycled by Tiffany Ann Beverlin: https://www.amazon.com/Dreams-Recycled-Tiffany-Ann-Beverlin/dp/0998268623

25 MINMAY 13
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Sell Your Stuff & Start Fresh After Divorce with Tiffany Ann Beverlin

Be Your Best Self in the Divorce Process with Nancy Steiner

The stress of a divorce can bring out the worst in us. Emotions are heightened, and we revert to our most-regressed selves. But it doesn’t have to be this way. You can commit to staying in a place of kindness and compassion, whether or not your ex reciprocates, and achieve a better result. Nancy Steiner is the Founder and President of Steiner Coaching Solutions, a practice dedicated to helping people achieve higher levels of potential, creativity and confidence. Nancy spent 40 years producing documentary films and nonfiction network television, telling stories that offered a deeper understanding of the human condition. In 2018, a health crisis inspired Nancy’s transition to coaching, a career that allows her to connect more deeply with people one-on-one. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Nancy joins Katherine to explain how a coach can help you make decisions about who you want to be in the divorce process. She discusses the benefits of taking the high road, sharing what she d...

25 MINAPR 29
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Be Your Best Self in the Divorce Process with Nancy Steiner

Navigating Eldercare in the Coronavirus Era with Barbara Newman-Mannix

For adult children with aging parents, the current health crisis is particularly stressful. Some of us are caring for Mom or Dad at home without the help we’re used to. Others are cut off from our loved ones in nursing homes or assisted living facilities. So, what’s the best way to navigate our new role as caregiver if an elderly parent is home with us? Or stay connected to our aging parents if we can’t see them face-to-face? Barbara Newman-Mannix is the Founder and CEO of A Dignified Life, a consultancy that helps families understand and manage major life transitions. ADL develops care plans for elder parents and loved ones with chronic illness, connecting families with the professional services they need. Barbara is a fierce advocate for families, supporting them through the difficult healthcare, insurance, legal and financial challenges that come with navigating change around eldercare, end-of-life, divorce or special needs. On this special episode of Divorce Dialogues, Barbar...

22 MINAPR 16
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Navigating Eldercare in the Coronavirus Era with Barbara Newman-Mannix

When to Let Go & Go Through with Divorce with Dr. Frederick Tiesenga

Multiple songs have been written about the futility of trying to make someone love you. But if that someone is your spouse, you may spend years (and a lot of money) in the attempt. So, how do you know when it’s time to let go and go through with a divorce? Dr. Frederick Tiesenga is an award-winning, board certified bariatric surgeon dedicated to helping people achieve a healthier lifestyle. He is also the author of I Do Until I Don’t: A Surgeon’s Story of Divorce and Healing, a collection of his experiences through marriage and divorce. In the book, Dr. Tiesenga gets real about what a healthy marriage should look like and shares his hard-earned insights into divorce. On this episode of Divorce Dialogues, Dr. Tiesenga joins Katherine to share the story of his own contentious divorce, describing what he did to try and save the marriage—and why it didn’t work. He offers his take on why a prenuptial agreement is a necessity and discusses what couples can do to communicate their nee...

25 MINAPR 15
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When to Let Go & Go Through with Divorce with Dr. Frederick Tiesenga
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