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Gal Pals

Engrid Latina & Georgie Morley

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Gal Pals

Gal Pals

Engrid Latina & Georgie Morley

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Welcome to Gal Pals, a deep-dive lifestyle podcast hosted by Georgie Morely & Engrid Latina. Tune in every Thursday to hang out with us, as we candidly chat about navigating specific life moments like: dealing with conflict, getting out of our own heads, owning your ish, healthy communication, and seeing the stories we tell ourselves. This show dives into the kinds of topics you might talk about in therapy. We keep it candid, playful, and abundantly detailed!

Latest Episodes

Putting People on Pedestals

EPutting People on Pedestals Pedastling - what does it mean? Giving away our power Using someone else's experiences in place of our own Comparison Binary thinking (superior / inferior) Loving someone’s work and not honoring/seeing the human-ness/flaws of the creator Differentiating Values from someone’s work Where is the line when you can’t support someone’s work because of their values? Why we put new friendships & relationships on pedestals Re-humanizing people we’ve put on a pedestal We can also put our own identity on a pedestal Why it’s a more equal beneficial relationship when both parties are respected & also seen as humans CONNECT WITH US Instagram Join: Gal Pal Corral ENGRID Instagram: @livengproof Liveng Proof Podcast Website GEORGIE Instagram: @georgiemorley The Chasing Joy Podcast Website

55 MIN3 d ago
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Putting People on Pedestals

Giving Feedback

Giving Feedback Types of Intentions when giving feedback Guilt Inducing / Critical / Passive Aggressive Constructive Feedback Relationships Friendships Work Relationships Therapy Family social justice Communication For the purposes of this episode we’ll be focusing on giving constructive feedback Things to consider when giving feedback: Write it out What is my true intention? Evaluate Trust / Risk Ask Delivery Tools/Things to Remember when giving feedback Check in Your Delivery Respond Instead of Reacting Be open to questions from the person receiving what you are sharing Expectations Don’t Beat A Dead Horse Consider Possible Outcomes You are only responsibility for YOUR actions It’s okay to have emotions CONNECT WITH US Instagram Join: Gal Pal Corral ENGRID Instagram: @livengproof Liveng Proof Podcast Website GEORGIE Instagram: @georgiemorley The Chasing Joy Podcast Website

54 MIN1 w ago
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Giving Feedback

Receiving Feedback

Types of Feedback Critical Constructive For the purposes of this episode we’ll be focusing on constructive feedback Questions to consider when you are receiving feedback What is my relationship with the person giving feedback? (boss, spouse, co-worker, friend) How does the power dynamic between us change how this feedback is given/received What risk did they have to take to give me this feedback? What is at risk if I don’t truly listen/understand? How can I be grateful for this information regardless of how uncomfortable it is to hear? Tools/Things to Remember Seek genuine understanding before being understood Listen beyond the tone (for the receiver) Breathe Thank the person and acknowledge that it might have been challenging for them to bring this to you Ask clarifying questions (without interrogating or defending) Acknowledge that you hear them and validate their experience Avoid jumping into fixing or defensiveness: Take responsibility for your action and your role Questions to ask yourself: How could their experience be different than mine? How can I see things from their frame of reference? How did I express myself? What were my intentions when I expressed myself? How was I feeling just before the interaction? Try not to center yourself (as the recipient) Taking it Personally - How to manage your emotions during feedback Reminders: we have the capacity to hurt others regardless of our intentions It’s human to take things personally and make it about yourself Stay out of the “I’m being attacked” mindset Hold space for multiple feelings and truths A helpful reframe is to understand that constructive feedback - as painful as it can be - is truly a gift. The risk of not receiving feedback CONNECT WITH US Instagram Join: Gal Pal Corral ENGRID Instagram: @livengproof Liveng Proof Podcast Website GEORGIE Instagram: @georgiemorley The Chasing Joy Podcast Website

63 MIN2 w ago
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Receiving Feedback

Hard Conversations [repost]

EQOTW: What’s a new discovery you’ve found this week Georgie - doing something different and energizing in the morning Engrid - Louise Hay videos in the morning We Talk About Giving feedback Confrontation How to react when people cross your boundaries Fear of telling someone “no” How people pleasing stops us from having hard conversations Deciding when to tell someone they’ve let you down Working on saying “no” Why holding space for other people’s emotions is hard Times when Georgie and Engrid had hard conversations with each other Why hard conversations lead to closer friendships It feels good to know where you stand Fear of confrontation is scarier than the real thing Gems “expectations are future resentments” CONNECT WITH US Instagram Join: Gal Pal Corral ENGRID Instagram: @livengproof Liveng Proof Podcast Website GEORGIE Instagram: @georgiemorley The Chasing Joy Podcast Website

52 MIN3 w ago
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Hard Conversations [repost]

How We’re Learning to be Anti-Racist

On this week’s episode the Gals are discussing how they’re taking actions and learning about systematic racism and ways that they can be anti-racist. They are sharing their plans and the resources they are learning from. We want to let our community know that while we might not be sharing as much publicly right now our DMs and inboxes are open and we’d love to hear from you. “The most effective adaptation of racism over time, is the idea that racism is conscious bias held by mean people. This “good/bad binary,” positing a world of evil racists and compassionate non-racists, is itself a racist construct, eliding systemic injustice and imbuing racism with such shattering moral meaning that white people, especially progressives, cannot bear to face their collusion in it.” - White Fragility "Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself." - Rumi Books: White Fragility: Why It's So Hard for White People to Talk About Racism by Robin DiAngelo Fearing the Black Body by Sabrina Strings Me and White Supremacy: Combat Racism, Change the World, and Become a Good Ancestor by Layla F Saad How to Be an Anti-Racist by Ibram X Kendi *when possible we suggest looking to support your local bookstore or a blackowned bookstore Shows, Movies & Docs: #blackAF 13th Podcasts: Balance Black Girl Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/balanced-black-girl/id1438982040 Body Trauma: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/body-trauma-a-storytelling-podcast/id1510247972 2 Dope Queens: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/2-dope-queens/id1097193327 Pod Save The People: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/pod-save-the-people/id1230148653 Instagram: @balancedles@balancedblackgirlpod@thefriendIneverwanted @bodytraumapod @moemotivate @toimarie @chrissyking CONNECT WITH US Instagram Join: Gal Pal Corral ENGRID Instagram: @livengproof Liveng Proof Podcast Website GEORGIE Instagram: @georgiemorley The Chasing Joy Podcast Website

14 MINJUN 12
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How We’re Learning to be Anti-Racist

Friendship

EIn today’s episode the Georgie and Engrid are celebrating one year of Gal Pals. They each share what they’ve gained/learned in their one year of creating Gal Pals together. Our intention with starting this podcast is to inspire you to have deeper more meaningful conversations + connections with the people in your life. Our ultimate dream is to connect IRL and spaces where you can connect with each other. Join the Gal Pals from Envy to Energy Workshop: From Envy to Energy the gal pals guide to moving through feelings of envy into manifestation date: 6/3 time: noon Wednesday location: via zoom (link provided after signup) $22 https://www.eventbrite.com/e/from-envy-to-energy-empowerment-workshop-tickets-105261000486 IN THIS EPISODE: Learning that you can trust others to show up Learning its safe to ask for what you need Sitting in the stickiness of practice It’s safe to push yourself (in a good way) when it comes to practice and preparation Gain the skill of outlining a topic to unpack Gaining confidence with speaking Tell someone how you really feel (share the compliments) Permission to be your best fullest self Better able to articulate ourselves and our feelings IRL QUESTIONS WE ANSWER: How did you two become friends? How do you handle friends who aren’t engaged/the friendship is dwindling? Tips on making friends post college - I want to find deep relationships like I made there Advice on growing friendships in adulthood. What advice would you give ladies looking to find new close friends like you have. What aspects of your friendship (or specific experience/convo) makes you feel closest? How do you maintain your friendship while living so far away from each other? If you had to use a tv friendship to describe your friendship who would it be? How has your friendship adapted to self isolation? Any tips? Expectations of what friendship “should” be like (bigger friend groups vs. smaller) Have you ever gotten into any challenging fights/disagreements? How do you discuss opposing opinions or awkward topics? Stereotypes and expectations of friendship What is the most important element of friendship? What is your favorite thing about each other? Can you tell us about some of the funniest moments in your friendship? Times you've laughed so hard you've cried CONNECT WITH US Instagram Join: Gal Pal Corral ENGRID Instagram: @livengproof Liveng Proof Podcast Website GEORGIE Instagram: @georgiemorley The Chasing Joy Podcast Website

79 MINMAY 29
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Friendship

Inner Critic

EIn the episode Georgie & Engrid are discussing all things Inner Critic. We all have those judgemental voices (that are really just trying to protect us) that show up. The gals share their biggest inner critic stories, what the narratives sound like (usually mean) and ways the inner critic shows up in our lives (perfectionism anyone?). And of course they dive into where these stories came from in the first place. They ponder the question: What does it look like to give the critical parts of yourself loving attention, instead of trying to ignore them? CONNECT WITH US Instagram Join: Gal Pal Corral ENGRID Instagram: @livengproof Liveng Proof Podcast Website GEORGIE Instagram: @georgiemorley The Chasing Joy Podcast Website IN THIS EPISODE: What is an inner critic? The judgemental voice that tries to protect us Ways the inner critic shows up: Self sabotaging, perfectionism, people pleasing, workaholism, high-performance What language does it use? (To Self and to Others) Fear Shame Judgment Doubt Self-Righteous Black and White Thinking Worry Catastrophizing Blaming Belittling High Expectations Pressuring Calling a “family meeting” of all the different parts of yourself The gals share what their inner critics sound like? Engrid: (Biggest inner critic stories) Good things don’t last for you. Feeling good is a short lived experience, you can only have that in small doses. Life is hard. You have to work hard for and earn your place in the world. You have to suffer in order to earn what you want. You can’t fully be yourself, you have to adapt to others to be likeable / accepted. Making others feel comfortable is more important than making yourself feel comfortable / at ease. Often shows up like: I can switch very quickly switch to being very controlling when I feel like my needs aren’t being met/respected Recreating circumstances that reinforce these beliefs No one will listen to me unless I’m angry Hypervigilance / hyper-sensitive & aware of other people Waiting for the other shoe to drop when I am feeling really good. Seeking affirmation from people I work with (did I do enough for you? Did I do a good job?) Georgie: (Biggest inner critic stories) You’re not as good as you think you are no one actually likes you You’ll never be as successful as you dream of Often sounds like: “You’re not that talented (with photography) one of these days you’re going to ruin someone’s shoot” “You’ll never be as good as XYZ” “They probably don’t really like you, they’re just being nice” “They're just saying that to be nice, they don’t really mean it” (Compliments/praise) ENNEAGRAM: “I am good or okay if I do what is right” “I am good or okay if I am accepted and loved by others” “I am good or okay if others think well of me, and I’m successful” “I am good or okay if I am true to myself” (inner battle under stress: wanting to fit in vs. showing everyone how unique you are) "I am good or okay if I master something." "I am good or okay if I know what is expected of me." "I am good or okay if I get what I need." “I am good or okay if I can impose my will and be strong and just." “I am good or OK if everyone around me is right or OK." When do Inner Critic’s get the loudest? Positive: In uncharted territory During times of growth and break through (they’re the emergency break) Shining “too” bright Uncomfortable: Awkward moments Shame Embarrassment Failure The gals share phases of life & experiences that brought about these critical narratives How can we invite our inner critics to the table? I used to think I had to “tune the negative voices out” Now I realize that they’re trying to get my attention What does it look like to give the critical parts of yourself loving attention?

69 MINMAY 22
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Inner Critic

Body Image In Photos

EHave you ever seen a photo of yourself that ruined your day? Why do we do this? In this episode Georgie & Engrid are diving deeper into what’s triggering this, so we can deal with those deeper issues instead of getting stuck on the photo. CONNECT WITH US Instagram Join: Gal Pal Corral ENGRID Instagram: @livengproof Liveng Proof Podcast Website GEORGIE Instagram: @georgiemorley The Chasing Joy Podcast Website ____ IN THIS EPISODE: This episode focuses on our individual perception of ourselves. What makes you see a photo of yourself and not like it? A bad photo is not a representation of YOU as a person What does my mind tell me, when I see a “bad” photo of myself? The gals each share their “rough draft” thoughts of what their inner critic says when they’ve seen a photo they didn't like of themselves Georgie: My deepest desire is to be seen and heard (clearly) How can I see myself clearly first? Engrid: I feel less worthy (I have no value if I’m not pretty/attractive) Are we trying to recreate or match a feeling we’ve felt before (likely in childhood)? Body image noise gets louder anytime we’re trying to EXPAND We often put a lot of pressure and have high expectations on photos What’s Really Going On? (Beyond The Photo) Sometimes time can be helpful before revisiting a photo Garry Winogrand: A photograph is the illusion of a literal description of how the camera ‘saw’ a piece of time and space. Photography is not about the thing photographed. It is about how that thing looks Photographed If you think about it based on everyone’s life experience we’re all seeing through completely different lenses - you’ll never know how Engrid:I’ve come to realize that my body dysmorphia may apply to more than just my body. I’m in the process of learning how this critical lens may be affecting other areas of my life Georgie:I don’t think I see myself clearly - what lens am I bringing? What about that lens is positive? What is negative? Can I change my lens (or upgrade it)

58 MINMAY 15
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Body Image In Photos

Perfectionism & Self Sabotage

EIn this episode Engrid and Georgie unpack this idea of perfectionism, self sabotage, trying (too) hard, and having desire. CONNECT WITH US Instagram Join: Gal Pal Corral ENGRID Instagram: @livengproof Liveng Proof Podcast Website GEORGIE Instagram: @georgiemorley The Chasing Joy Podcast Website In this episode: The Gals share the messages they adopted while growing up: Engrid: “You’re not naturally gifted, but you’re a really hard worker” “Trying hard gets you noticed “ Your work ethic is what you bring to the table You prove your worth by how hard you work Work hard to make sure you’re as prepared as possible “Good” isn’t good enough, you need to be exceptional Georgie: “It’s not okay to look like you’re trying “too hard” “Don't be too obsessive, don’t be too much” Dont say what you want outloud, you’ll look stupid if it doesnt happen “Wanting too much is selfish” “Trying too hard looks desperate” The price of failing is too high, so don’t do something unles...

65 MINMAY 8
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Perfectionism & Self Sabotage

Personas

EIn this episode George and Engrid unpack this idea of embodying a persona. There are many terms for this idea: sending up a representative, wearing a mask, code-switch, shape shift, chameleon, or the “space suit” self as Tara Brach calls it. Brene Brown refers to it as wearing armor. In this conversation the gals discuss how and why this happens, as well as the risks of living as a persona. In this episode: How and why we may develop a persona Somehow we learn that to show up as our full self isn’t safe The gals share personal examples from their childhood that contributed to developing a persona Contributing factors: How young you are & the frequency with which you receive these messages that how you are isn't okay Living only within your persona is energy expensive Where DO we feel comfortable to NOT be the persona? We are different versions of ourselves in different parts of our lives THINK: Is my response: thoughtful? Honest? Intelligent? Necessary? Kind? Long term effects/risks of living in a persona Engrid shares her personal experience of long-term abandonment of herself The guild that can come with fully being ourselves Judgement towards others for being happy (proportionate to how happy you allow yourself to be) Being hypersensitive reading people vs. being oblivious (both are protective strategies) Social media is a chosen representation of who we are, influencers run the risk overidentifying with their persona When you show up, what are your intentions? The risks of personas in intimate relationships When we exploit our imperfections to appear relatable Telling a story three times: relate, understand, gift it (so we don’t become overly identified by a story we are telling about ourselves) Not becoming overly attached to a struggle we’ve experienced by not sharing about something ad nauseum Addiction to the healing journey Becoming trapped by a our healing journey, if we believe it’s what makes us relatable The risks of trauma bonding CONNECT WITH US Instagram Join: Gal Pal Corral ENGRID Instagram: @livengproof Liveng Proof Podcast Website GEORGIE Instagram: @georgiemorley The Chasing Joy Podcast Website

52 MINMAY 1
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Personas

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Putting People on Pedestals

EPutting People on Pedestals Pedastling - what does it mean? Giving away our power Using someone else's experiences in place of our own Comparison Binary thinking (superior / inferior) Loving someone’s work and not honoring/seeing the human-ness/flaws of the creator Differentiating Values from someone’s work Where is the line when you can’t support someone’s work because of their values? Why we put new friendships & relationships on pedestals Re-humanizing people we’ve put on a pedestal We can also put our own identity on a pedestal Why it’s a more equal beneficial relationship when both parties are respected & also seen as humans CONNECT WITH US Instagram Join: Gal Pal Corral ENGRID Instagram: @livengproof Liveng Proof Podcast Website GEORGIE Instagram: @georgiemorley The Chasing Joy Podcast Website

55 MIN3 d ago
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Putting People on Pedestals

Giving Feedback

Giving Feedback Types of Intentions when giving feedback Guilt Inducing / Critical / Passive Aggressive Constructive Feedback Relationships Friendships Work Relationships Therapy Family social justice Communication For the purposes of this episode we’ll be focusing on giving constructive feedback Things to consider when giving feedback: Write it out What is my true intention? Evaluate Trust / Risk Ask Delivery Tools/Things to Remember when giving feedback Check in Your Delivery Respond Instead of Reacting Be open to questions from the person receiving what you are sharing Expectations Don’t Beat A Dead Horse Consider Possible Outcomes You are only responsibility for YOUR actions It’s okay to have emotions CONNECT WITH US Instagram Join: Gal Pal Corral ENGRID Instagram: @livengproof Liveng Proof Podcast Website GEORGIE Instagram: @georgiemorley The Chasing Joy Podcast Website

54 MIN1 w ago
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Giving Feedback

Receiving Feedback

Types of Feedback Critical Constructive For the purposes of this episode we’ll be focusing on constructive feedback Questions to consider when you are receiving feedback What is my relationship with the person giving feedback? (boss, spouse, co-worker, friend) How does the power dynamic between us change how this feedback is given/received What risk did they have to take to give me this feedback? What is at risk if I don’t truly listen/understand? How can I be grateful for this information regardless of how uncomfortable it is to hear? Tools/Things to Remember Seek genuine understanding before being understood Listen beyond the tone (for the receiver) Breathe Thank the person and acknowledge that it might have been challenging for them to bring this to you Ask clarifying questions (without interrogating or defending) Acknowledge that you hear them and validate their experience Avoid jumping into fixing or defensiveness: Take responsibility for your action and your role Questions to ask yourself: How could their experience be different than mine? How can I see things from their frame of reference? How did I express myself? What were my intentions when I expressed myself? How was I feeling just before the interaction? Try not to center yourself (as the recipient) Taking it Personally - How to manage your emotions during feedback Reminders: we have the capacity to hurt others regardless of our intentions It’s human to take things personally and make it about yourself Stay out of the “I’m being attacked” mindset Hold space for multiple feelings and truths A helpful reframe is to understand that constructive feedback - as painful as it can be - is truly a gift. The risk of not receiving feedback CONNECT WITH US Instagram Join: Gal Pal Corral ENGRID Instagram: @livengproof Liveng Proof Podcast Website GEORGIE Instagram: @georgiemorley The Chasing Joy Podcast Website

63 MIN2 w ago
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Receiving Feedback

Hard Conversations [repost]

EQOTW: What’s a new discovery you’ve found this week Georgie - doing something different and energizing in the morning Engrid - Louise Hay videos in the morning We Talk About Giving feedback Confrontation How to react when people cross your boundaries Fear of telling someone “no” How people pleasing stops us from having hard conversations Deciding when to tell someone they’ve let you down Working on saying “no” Why holding space for other people’s emotions is hard Times when Georgie and Engrid had hard conversations with each other Why hard conversations lead to closer friendships It feels good to know where you stand Fear of confrontation is scarier than the real thing Gems “expectations are future resentments” CONNECT WITH US Instagram Join: Gal Pal Corral ENGRID Instagram: @livengproof Liveng Proof Podcast Website GEORGIE Instagram: @georgiemorley The Chasing Joy Podcast Website

52 MIN3 w ago
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Hard Conversations [repost]

How We’re Learning to be Anti-Racist

On this week’s episode the Gals are discussing how they’re taking actions and learning about systematic racism and ways that they can be anti-racist. They are sharing their plans and the resources they are learning from. We want to let our community know that while we might not be sharing as much publicly right now our DMs and inboxes are open and we’d love to hear from you. “The most effective adaptation of racism over time, is the idea that racism is conscious bias held by mean people. This “good/bad binary,” positing a world of evil racists and compassionate non-racists, is itself a racist construct, eliding systemic injustice and imbuing racism with such shattering moral meaning that white people, especially progressives, cannot bear to face their collusion in it.” - White Fragility "Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself." - Rumi Books: White Fragility: Why It's So Hard for White People to Talk About Racism by Robin DiAngelo Fearing the Black Body by Sabrina Strings Me and White Supremacy: Combat Racism, Change the World, and Become a Good Ancestor by Layla F Saad How to Be an Anti-Racist by Ibram X Kendi *when possible we suggest looking to support your local bookstore or a blackowned bookstore Shows, Movies & Docs: #blackAF 13th Podcasts: Balance Black Girl Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/balanced-black-girl/id1438982040 Body Trauma: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/body-trauma-a-storytelling-podcast/id1510247972 2 Dope Queens: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/2-dope-queens/id1097193327 Pod Save The People: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/pod-save-the-people/id1230148653 Instagram: @balancedles@balancedblackgirlpod@thefriendIneverwanted @bodytraumapod @moemotivate @toimarie @chrissyking CONNECT WITH US Instagram Join: Gal Pal Corral ENGRID Instagram: @livengproof Liveng Proof Podcast Website GEORGIE Instagram: @georgiemorley The Chasing Joy Podcast Website

14 MINJUN 12
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How We’re Learning to be Anti-Racist

Friendship

EIn today’s episode the Georgie and Engrid are celebrating one year of Gal Pals. They each share what they’ve gained/learned in their one year of creating Gal Pals together. Our intention with starting this podcast is to inspire you to have deeper more meaningful conversations + connections with the people in your life. Our ultimate dream is to connect IRL and spaces where you can connect with each other. Join the Gal Pals from Envy to Energy Workshop: From Envy to Energy the gal pals guide to moving through feelings of envy into manifestation date: 6/3 time: noon Wednesday location: via zoom (link provided after signup) $22 https://www.eventbrite.com/e/from-envy-to-energy-empowerment-workshop-tickets-105261000486 IN THIS EPISODE: Learning that you can trust others to show up Learning its safe to ask for what you need Sitting in the stickiness of practice It’s safe to push yourself (in a good way) when it comes to practice and preparation Gain the skill of outlining a topic to unpack Gaining confidence with speaking Tell someone how you really feel (share the compliments) Permission to be your best fullest self Better able to articulate ourselves and our feelings IRL QUESTIONS WE ANSWER: How did you two become friends? How do you handle friends who aren’t engaged/the friendship is dwindling? Tips on making friends post college - I want to find deep relationships like I made there Advice on growing friendships in adulthood. What advice would you give ladies looking to find new close friends like you have. What aspects of your friendship (or specific experience/convo) makes you feel closest? How do you maintain your friendship while living so far away from each other? If you had to use a tv friendship to describe your friendship who would it be? How has your friendship adapted to self isolation? Any tips? Expectations of what friendship “should” be like (bigger friend groups vs. smaller) Have you ever gotten into any challenging fights/disagreements? How do you discuss opposing opinions or awkward topics? Stereotypes and expectations of friendship What is the most important element of friendship? What is your favorite thing about each other? Can you tell us about some of the funniest moments in your friendship? Times you've laughed so hard you've cried CONNECT WITH US Instagram Join: Gal Pal Corral ENGRID Instagram: @livengproof Liveng Proof Podcast Website GEORGIE Instagram: @georgiemorley The Chasing Joy Podcast Website

79 MINMAY 29
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Friendship

Inner Critic

EIn the episode Georgie & Engrid are discussing all things Inner Critic. We all have those judgemental voices (that are really just trying to protect us) that show up. The gals share their biggest inner critic stories, what the narratives sound like (usually mean) and ways the inner critic shows up in our lives (perfectionism anyone?). And of course they dive into where these stories came from in the first place. They ponder the question: What does it look like to give the critical parts of yourself loving attention, instead of trying to ignore them? CONNECT WITH US Instagram Join: Gal Pal Corral ENGRID Instagram: @livengproof Liveng Proof Podcast Website GEORGIE Instagram: @georgiemorley The Chasing Joy Podcast Website IN THIS EPISODE: What is an inner critic? The judgemental voice that tries to protect us Ways the inner critic shows up: Self sabotaging, perfectionism, people pleasing, workaholism, high-performance What language does it use? (To Self and to Others) Fear Shame Judgment Doubt Self-Righteous Black and White Thinking Worry Catastrophizing Blaming Belittling High Expectations Pressuring Calling a “family meeting” of all the different parts of yourself The gals share what their inner critics sound like? Engrid: (Biggest inner critic stories) Good things don’t last for you. Feeling good is a short lived experience, you can only have that in small doses. Life is hard. You have to work hard for and earn your place in the world. You have to suffer in order to earn what you want. You can’t fully be yourself, you have to adapt to others to be likeable / accepted. Making others feel comfortable is more important than making yourself feel comfortable / at ease. Often shows up like: I can switch very quickly switch to being very controlling when I feel like my needs aren’t being met/respected Recreating circumstances that reinforce these beliefs No one will listen to me unless I’m angry Hypervigilance / hyper-sensitive & aware of other people Waiting for the other shoe to drop when I am feeling really good. Seeking affirmation from people I work with (did I do enough for you? Did I do a good job?) Georgie: (Biggest inner critic stories) You’re not as good as you think you are no one actually likes you You’ll never be as successful as you dream of Often sounds like: “You’re not that talented (with photography) one of these days you’re going to ruin someone’s shoot” “You’ll never be as good as XYZ” “They probably don’t really like you, they’re just being nice” “They're just saying that to be nice, they don’t really mean it” (Compliments/praise) ENNEAGRAM: “I am good or okay if I do what is right” “I am good or okay if I am accepted and loved by others” “I am good or okay if others think well of me, and I’m successful” “I am good or okay if I am true to myself” (inner battle under stress: wanting to fit in vs. showing everyone how unique you are) "I am good or okay if I master something." "I am good or okay if I know what is expected of me." "I am good or okay if I get what I need." “I am good or okay if I can impose my will and be strong and just." “I am good or OK if everyone around me is right or OK." When do Inner Critic’s get the loudest? Positive: In uncharted territory During times of growth and break through (they’re the emergency break) Shining “too” bright Uncomfortable: Awkward moments Shame Embarrassment Failure The gals share phases of life & experiences that brought about these critical narratives How can we invite our inner critics to the table? I used to think I had to “tune the negative voices out” Now I realize that they’re trying to get my attention What does it look like to give the critical parts of yourself loving attention?

69 MINMAY 22
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Inner Critic

Body Image In Photos

EHave you ever seen a photo of yourself that ruined your day? Why do we do this? In this episode Georgie & Engrid are diving deeper into what’s triggering this, so we can deal with those deeper issues instead of getting stuck on the photo. CONNECT WITH US Instagram Join: Gal Pal Corral ENGRID Instagram: @livengproof Liveng Proof Podcast Website GEORGIE Instagram: @georgiemorley The Chasing Joy Podcast Website ____ IN THIS EPISODE: This episode focuses on our individual perception of ourselves. What makes you see a photo of yourself and not like it? A bad photo is not a representation of YOU as a person What does my mind tell me, when I see a “bad” photo of myself? The gals each share their “rough draft” thoughts of what their inner critic says when they’ve seen a photo they didn't like of themselves Georgie: My deepest desire is to be seen and heard (clearly) How can I see myself clearly first? Engrid: I feel less worthy (I have no value if I’m not pretty/attractive) Are we trying to recreate or match a feeling we’ve felt before (likely in childhood)? Body image noise gets louder anytime we’re trying to EXPAND We often put a lot of pressure and have high expectations on photos What’s Really Going On? (Beyond The Photo) Sometimes time can be helpful before revisiting a photo Garry Winogrand: A photograph is the illusion of a literal description of how the camera ‘saw’ a piece of time and space. Photography is not about the thing photographed. It is about how that thing looks Photographed If you think about it based on everyone’s life experience we’re all seeing through completely different lenses - you’ll never know how Engrid:I’ve come to realize that my body dysmorphia may apply to more than just my body. I’m in the process of learning how this critical lens may be affecting other areas of my life Georgie:I don’t think I see myself clearly - what lens am I bringing? What about that lens is positive? What is negative? Can I change my lens (or upgrade it)

58 MINMAY 15
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Perfectionism & Self Sabotage

EIn this episode Engrid and Georgie unpack this idea of perfectionism, self sabotage, trying (too) hard, and having desire. CONNECT WITH US Instagram Join: Gal Pal Corral ENGRID Instagram: @livengproof Liveng Proof Podcast Website GEORGIE Instagram: @georgiemorley The Chasing Joy Podcast Website In this episode: The Gals share the messages they adopted while growing up: Engrid: “You’re not naturally gifted, but you’re a really hard worker” “Trying hard gets you noticed “ Your work ethic is what you bring to the table You prove your worth by how hard you work Work hard to make sure you’re as prepared as possible “Good” isn’t good enough, you need to be exceptional Georgie: “It’s not okay to look like you’re trying “too hard” “Don't be too obsessive, don’t be too much” Dont say what you want outloud, you’ll look stupid if it doesnt happen “Wanting too much is selfish” “Trying too hard looks desperate” The price of failing is too high, so don’t do something unles...

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Perfectionism & Self Sabotage

Personas

EIn this episode George and Engrid unpack this idea of embodying a persona. There are many terms for this idea: sending up a representative, wearing a mask, code-switch, shape shift, chameleon, or the “space suit” self as Tara Brach calls it. Brene Brown refers to it as wearing armor. In this conversation the gals discuss how and why this happens, as well as the risks of living as a persona. In this episode: How and why we may develop a persona Somehow we learn that to show up as our full self isn’t safe The gals share personal examples from their childhood that contributed to developing a persona Contributing factors: How young you are & the frequency with which you receive these messages that how you are isn't okay Living only within your persona is energy expensive Where DO we feel comfortable to NOT be the persona? We are different versions of ourselves in different parts of our lives THINK: Is my response: thoughtful? Honest? Intelligent? Necessary? Kind? Long term effects/risks of living in a persona Engrid shares her personal experience of long-term abandonment of herself The guild that can come with fully being ourselves Judgement towards others for being happy (proportionate to how happy you allow yourself to be) Being hypersensitive reading people vs. being oblivious (both are protective strategies) Social media is a chosen representation of who we are, influencers run the risk overidentifying with their persona When you show up, what are your intentions? The risks of personas in intimate relationships When we exploit our imperfections to appear relatable Telling a story three times: relate, understand, gift it (so we don’t become overly identified by a story we are telling about ourselves) Not becoming overly attached to a struggle we’ve experienced by not sharing about something ad nauseum Addiction to the healing journey Becoming trapped by a our healing journey, if we believe it’s what makes us relatable The risks of trauma bonding CONNECT WITH US Instagram Join: Gal Pal Corral ENGRID Instagram: @livengproof Liveng Proof Podcast Website GEORGIE Instagram: @georgiemorley The Chasing Joy Podcast Website

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